Roles & Responsiblities
Category: Family Coaching
As parents, it is important to establish clear roles and responsibilities within the family. This not only helps to ensure that everyone is contributing to the household, but it also teaches children important life skills and values.
Look at the example set by Jesus himself. In John 13, we see Jesus washing the feet of his disciples. This act of service was not only humbling, but it also showed his disciples the importance of serving others. As parents, we too can lead by example and teach our children to serve others through the responsibilities we give them within the home.
Proverbs 22:6 instructs us to "Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it." By assigning responsibilities to our children, we are helping to train them in the way they should go. When they are given tasks to complete, they learn the importance of diligence, responsibility, and accountability.
Assigning roles and responsibilities also helps to create a sense of unity and teamwork within the family. Each member knows their part in contributing to the household, which can lead to a more harmonious home environment. This is especially important when it comes to household chores, as it teaches children that everyone must do their part to keep the home running smoothly.
An overarching responsibility that we instill in our kids is their duty to love and care for one another. During a family staycay we started something that we can see is really defining the culture of our family and who we are. We make a statement to one another that says who we are (this has helped our preschoolers understand the difference between parent and child, sibling and so on)... and our promise to one another. So, Elsie will say to Eli, "Eli, I am your sister, I love you, and I promise to always take care of you." Then she'll say to me or Rachel, "Mom/Dad, I'm your daughter, I love you, and I promise to always take care of you." We'll repeat this with every member and to every member of the family, even baby Ezzy. Sometimes it's while we're driving, sometimes it's at dinner, or even at Target... anywhere and everywhere.
These simple statements are easy for our kids to understand and carry so much power with it. It goes without saying that this goes hand in hand with teaching our kids that our words matter. When we say we will do something, we do it!